[Our Parent’s advices]

A lot of us take advice seriously from our friends, our colleagues or classmates.
It could be regarding a new job offer or the girl whom you always want to know.

What should you do, how would you do it.
It’s not new to you because we are doing it almost every other day.

Our parents were among the first person we approached for an advice.
Most of the time, they would tell you what you shouldn’t be doing.

My mum is a typical negative minded person.
She would oppose in almost anything I want to do.

Like the design course I wanted to apply after O levels.
Like my choice of friends and the places I wanted to hang out.

She would say no to almost everything that came out from my mouth.
To her, having a steady job means more than anything in this life.

My passion, my dreams were something that is unpractical and perhaps unreasonable.
So I grew up my life listen to all her rejections even until this very day.

All my ventures, my proposals simply went down the drain the moment I speak to her.

My father on the other hand, never gives any advice.
He would only listen to what I want to say then let me say all the things I want.
Then he will not comment on it.

Normal reactions would be “Can do arh?”

You can say he’s more constructive in a way because he’s mentally challenging the possibilities in the problem.

There’s only one advice which he told me and sadly until today I still didn’t the importance of his advice.

“When are you going to get your driving license?”
I remembered he told me shortly after I came out from the army… almost 10years ago.

I would think it’s a bother to go through all the lessons and exams without the need of wanting a car. However, a license can be useful even if you don’t have a car.

My dad had the foresight and asked me to go for it.

I didn’t then, I had to now…

Looking forward, how will I advice my son one day?
If he comes to me with a problem, how would I help him?
If he comes to me with a passion, will I brush his hope away?

I hope not.

A lot of us failed to understand how much influence we have on others.

You'll never realized how much you can affect another person's emotions just by behaving negatively infront of him/her