Journal of Life – Negative Emotions.


We all know that humans are born with emotions and logical thinking. That ability perhaps is the greatest difference between us and those mammals caged inside the zoo.

Somehow when we are in love, we could be blinded by our logical thinking and filled with negative emotions that sometimes we cannot control.

In the beginning, there were only the two of you.

You would call her everyday and she would send lovely messages every opportunity that she could. Everything would be so lovely and complete between the two of you that you would have thought that only the two of you survive on this lonely planet.

That would not be the case as time proved otherwise.

You would want to have some time with your friends, some time on your hobby and perhaps some time to catch up on your sleep.

She would want some time to go for her spa sessions, some time to go shopping.

Soon enough, you would begin to feel a gap between the two of you.

Possession

The feeling of jealousy arises when you see her paying more attention to other channels. You would have felt that you are her only companion in life.

You would have wanted him to be by your side in whatever you are doing. The feeling of anxiety aroused you that he could be flirting with someone else when he didn’t pick up your call.

Last but not least, anger.

The feeling that spur you in blowing everything at her when things don’t go your way. Sometimes verbal but worst of all physical harm to the person whom you claim you would love forever.

I’m very glad I don’t know anyone who abused their love ones.

The closest family abuse incident I had was from a secondary school friend whose father would beat him with his golf stick. He was not a good student and perhaps from the consent beating, anyone would give up. Most of the time, he would hide his wound in school to avoid teachers from questioning.

I have read and hear cases of wife beating and physical abuse in relationships.

In my mind, I only have one question for those people.

If you would harm the person whom you truly love, what sort of a person are you?

The fundamentals of love begin with giving and caring for each other. If you abuse your love ones then you do not really love them. You are merely using them as a venting pot.

The strangest thing however, is not the existence of abusers but the existence of those who lived to be abused.

If you let a person whom claims he loves you harm you, what sort of a person are you?

Is your sacrifice worth the love he proclaimed when he was sane?
Are you the greatest lover in the world to live in the shadow of his torture?

I hope not.

Because we are responsible being.
We are responsible not only for ourselves but also the actions and words that cast upon us.

We choose to love each other therefore we are together.
If you choose to hurt me, we will not be together anymore.
Because it only meant you loved yourself more than anyone else.

Negative emotions are always lurking within a relationship and waiting to strike.

I sincerely hope that anyone reading this would not verbally or physically hurt or cause hurt to your love ones.


(This passage is dedicated to Carmen Lee of "Choose Love, Not Abuse" Campaign that has quite a lot of good response from the Media. Sorry I couldn't attend your invitation for the Dating Violence Awareness Week. For more information, please visit: www.chooselovenotabuse.com )